How To Be A Better
10 steps to enjoying each other better...
realistic about each other.
Don't try to
turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's
only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed!
Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to
change overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad
Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like!
Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what
meets the eye.
talk things out.
Now guys, I know
this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This
works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn
to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u're angry about, or
hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the
heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff
Make an effort
to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared
activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as
simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard
Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u
to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at
window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for
"that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur
friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting
each other halfway.
If he agrees to
throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't
kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a
little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
Buy her flowers
or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5years.
It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him
a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't
wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for
breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic
and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself
if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his
height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about
respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the
Stop bringing up
the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it
would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy
times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as
it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this
b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on
All of us go
thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't
translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's
mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong
- with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship
before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur
commitments to each other.
If ur partner is
standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to
talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't
disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to
take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep.
If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus
Honesty is not
scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that
he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean
expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say
so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be
honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? æ Love is also about honesty,
and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!